There is another side to pride that shows up in our lives and can have a negative effect on how we present ourselves. I want to expose it today, share my battle with it and the scripture that I am standing on to stay victorious. You may not be familiar with it cause it is sneaky and likes to mask itself as honor and humility. It is a form of PRIDE and it’s very goal is to make sure that you don’t walk out your full potential in life or get to your destiny.
Hello, my name is Tasha and I’ve battled with false humility.
I did not have a name for it until God lovingly began to show me and teach me about it a few years ago. It was like God gently whispered these two words to me, “false humility.” It was an answer to several questions I had up to the Lord about why things were not going as I thought they should or why I had a pattern of not showing up. My immediate response from this new found insight was DENY, DENY, DENY! I was not trying to hear that about my character, surely I had heard wrong.
I shut God off and turned on Google. I went to the internet and found a comparison of pride, false humility and true humility. I read it and it made things worse. Now, I can potentially add low self-esteem and people pleasing to the list. Now, at this point, I don’t even know who I am anymore. I brought my husband in on the mess I created for myself. I showed him the chart and asked his opinion on it. I shared what God had spoken in my spirit and how this couldn’t be right. Being the loving and supportive husband that he is, he agreed with God.
I was horrified! How, after intentionally avoiding pride all these years, had I managed to operate successfully in it? After my pity party, I began to come into a place of understanding that it is the love of God that corrects us. I moved from DENY to a place where I could repent and ask God to show me how to overcome what I was walking in. God lovingly began to show me areas of my life where false humility reigned. I began to see the patterns.
Here are a few ways that false humility was working in my life as an entrepreneur:
- Hiding my gifts and talents.
- Operating in areas or roles that I was “overqualified for.”
- Purchasing courses and programs I never used or completed.
- Viewing my assignment in the marketplace as “too big.”
- Inconsistency in how I show up and serve.
- Keeping silent when I should be talking.
- Building for others when I should be building for myself.
If you think that you are dealing with this same issue, it may show up differently for you. As I stated before, the main objective of false humility is to stop you from operating fully in your identity and coming into your destiny. God will help you to see what the root of the issue is for you. For some people, it is a fear of pride that leads to false humility. For me, it was several things going all the way back to my childhood. By the grace of God, I have been healing from this mindset and being very intentional about staying victorious. It is indeed a process.
False humility showed up for me most in the marketplace when I worried about “people coming for me.” This is also known as fear of man. We can say we don’t care what others say, but our actions or inability to take action can tell another story. Again, this is a hard truth I had to deal with. God lovingly allowed me to see this from the word of God and get a perspective that would keep me victorious in this battle.
Long story short, I was trying to do everything I could to avoid persecution. If I don’t show up with this new thing that God gave (that is just different than the world), then I don’t have to worry about the folks who don’t agree. If people don’t know my gifts and talents, then I don’t have to deal with rejection or being misused. All of this boils down to persecution. Mark 10:30 lets us know that we cannot avoid persecution. Not if we are living for Christ.
“Listen to my words,” Jesus said. “Anyone who leaves his home behind and chooses me over children, parents, family, and possessions, all for the sake of the gospel, it will come back to him a hundred times as much in this lifetime—homes, family, mothers, brothers, sisters, children, possessions—along with persecutions. And in the age to come, he will inherit eternal life.”
If we want to be whole, we need to allow God’s love and mercy to constantly refine us and pull back the layers. I’m thankful for being able to share this truth and expose false humility. My ability to keep showing up where God grants me the authority is key to walking in victory and getting to my destiny.
Let me re-introduce myself
Hello, My name is Tasha and I’m on a mission to help restore authenticity and creativity back into the body of believers in the marketplace.
Wise words on false humility
“Jesus does not want us to walk in a false humility that minimizes how much He enjoys loving us or how much He wants us to enjoy being loved by Him.”
― Mike Bickle, Growing in Prayer: A Real-Life Guide to Talking with God
“God liked what he did, I like that by the way, isn’t that touching! If we are supposed to learn from God, clearly one thing you might want to pick up is what real humility is about! You are allowed to say that your work is good if it’s good, if you want to imitate God, don’t go around saying to something good you’ve done: naaah! That’s fake, that’s false humility. Real humility acknowledges what you’ve done. I’ve always been touched by that, God looks at what he did: eeeh, that was a good job. Isn’t that something! He saw it was good.”
― Dennis Prager
“My dear, here is lesson number one for using opportunity: waste no time on false humility. Tell the world about your achievements; don’t wait for someone else to do it.”
― Kate Alcott, The Dressmaker
“Saul answered, “But am I not a Benjamite, from the smallest tribe of Israel, and is not my clan the least of all the clans of the tribe of Benjamin? Why do you say such a thing to me?” (1 Samuel 9:21). “But Lord,” Gideon asked, “how can I save Israel? My clan is the weakest in Manasseh, and I am the least in my family” (Judges 6:15). But Moses said to God, “Who am I, that I should go to Pharaoh and bring the Israelites out of Egypt?” (Exodus 3:11). When God calls, you will probably be in the most unlikely circumstances to receive that call. You will be in the midst of a crisis, you will lack resources and you will not have the skills you think you need. This is the way of God. God works this way because He wants you to know that your call is based on His ability, not yours. When you think it is based on you, you possess a false humility, which is unbelief and disobedience on your part.”
― OS Hillman, TGIF: Today God Is First: Daily Workplace Inspiration